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Friday, May 31, 2013

Learning to believe again- an affirmation

Leap of faith.... dress by me, photo by James Conway, model Tatiana Chersini

Do you believe in the power of positive thinking? I didn't. I used to think, "Well, it's a good idea and everything, but it can't actually change anything in the real world." I have changed my mind after what we experienced in the last week. Some people will think I'm full of it, but I promise you this is a true story.

A week ago my husband and I watched the movie "The Secret" on Netflix. It is all about how positive thinking and visualization are the key to success in life. Ask the universe what you need/want, don't worry about the "how" of it, the universe will take care of the details.The various gurus in the movie advised, not to think, "I have bills coming, I'm at the end of my rope, everything is going wrong", because it sends out the message to the universe that that's what you want, that's who you are- you get trapped in a negative spiral. Instead think positively, "Everything is taken care of. Money isn't a problem, it comes easily," and it will be true, and you will receive everything you need and more.

Maybe it speaks to how desperate we were feeling that we took this message to heart and decided to try it. We both spent a couple hours that evening visualizing positive things we want for ourselves and our family. The next day, I swear this is true- my husband got 3 callbacks about jobs.

 He had a job interview a couple days later, and he left the house feeling like he didn't look good, so he decided to stop at a thrift shop on the way and look for a nicer shirt. He visualized a "power shirt" and found exactly what he pictured, a pinstripe button up shirt. He bought it and put it on in the parking lot and immediately felt better, more confident. He went to the job interview, which in his words was the perfect interview- couldn't have gone better.

So here's where the story gets a little weird....

My husband was feeling great when he got home that afternoon. We packed up our little girl and went grocery shopping. She threw a tantrum in the store so he took her outside to sit on the bench and wait for me to shop. While they were sitting there he saw this burly biker dude having trouble getting a duffel bag to stay on his bike. My husband suggested he use his bike lock to secure the bag. They started talking and the guy opened up to my husband, that he is down on his luck, his boss just passed away and he had been like a father to him. He said his boss's name was Joe Newsom*, did he know him? My husband said no, and the guy proceeds to tell him how Joe was a pillar of the community, took care of everyone, was a wonderful man. My husband then told the man a little about what we learned watching "The Secret", that it seemed to be working so far, and to keep his chin up and try positive thinking. The guy thanked him and said he needed that, and he was grateful for his advice.

We got home, and my husband was standing outside having a smoke, still wearing the "power shirt" which was by then unbuttoned and untucked. He looked down and the hem of the shirt was flapping in the breeze, and what is written on the inside of the hem in permanent marker? "Joe Newsom". I swear this is true. And while it does make sense that Joe's clothes were donated to a thrift shop after he passed, what, seriously, are the odds of my husband buying that shirt, and then talking to the guy's employee who missed him so badly, while still wearing it?... He ended up mentoring a stranger who just lost his mentor, while unknowingly wearing the former mentor's shirt. As if my husband just stepped into that role when he put on the shirt. My husband didn't have to talk to him- he could have minded his business like most people do...but he reached out to help, and.... wow...we learned so much through that cosmic coincidence. It really blew our minds.

Fast forward- today my husband found out he got the job he wanted! We are so happy and relieved, and it  answered he question as to whether the positive thinking was working. I have no doubts now.

I've always been such a skeptic and a cynic... but now skeptic has become the believer, and now I find myself wanting to share this message as well because I feel that so many people need to hear this.

 We only have this one life. Don't limit yourself! Your mind is the only limit, so push that limit, push it, push it, push it up up up, until you're high above it all, all the pettiness, greed, rat-race, misery, worry, anxiety, sadness, failure- nobody needs that and it never helped anyone. Let it go. Embrace the happiness, the little things to be thankful for, like good hot coffee and milk, a loaf of bread on the shelf and salt in the shaker, fresh air, clean water to drink, plants growing, birds singing, children laughing, dirt under your feet, stars to wonder at, breeze blowing your hair.... Life should be wonderful, and ultimately you are responsible for creating your own happiness... and you do have that power. It's just waiting to be tapped.

*name changed
dress by me, photo by James Conway, model Tatiana Chersini